The Problem with Being a GPS Christian

google-maps-mobile-smartphone-ss-1920“I used to have a good sense of direction. I could find my way around places. If I got lost, I could figure out how to get back on the right road. But now, without a GPS, I can’t find my way out of a paper bag.” These were the words of my friend as we were driving in another state recently. We were mindlessly following the directions of the GPS, and it was doing things like leading us off of main roads into neighborhoods only to put us right back on the main road again, going in the same direction we had been traveling; sending us down dead-end streets; and telling us we had arrived at our destination only to find ourselves staring at an empty field where it insisted we would find a restaurant. Perhaps you have had similar experiences with your GPS.

GPSs are great tools. They can help us get to our destination, give us real-time traffic alerts, help us find our way when we are lost, and they come with an option to speak to us in a British accent, which makes us feel classy. But what if your phone battery dies while you are driving? What if it can’t get service? What if the GPS’s latest update does not show that a road is closed? The danger of relying on technology so heavily is that you may never learn, or may forget, the skills needed to find your way around.

As I was thinking about what my friend said, I thought about how sometimes we can become so dependent on other people, or programs, or events to connect us to God that we never learn how to connect, or forget how to connect, with God ourselves. While it is great to have other people that can help you grow in God, like your parents, pastors, small group leaders, and friends; what would your walk with God look like if those people were not around? The writer of Hebrews said, “We have much to say about this, but it is hard to explain because you are slow to learn. In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God’s Word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil” (5:12-14).

Babies are are dependent on others for everything. Adults are responsible for taking care of themselves. When you are a new Christian, you need someone to give you the milk of God’s Word. But eventually you need to grow up and feed yourself the meat of the Bible. God has given you His Holy Spirit (YOU! Not just your parents, not just your pastors, not just your small group leaders … YOU!) to teach you what God’s Word means and to give you the strength to live according to what He shows you.
Just like there is nothing wrong with a GPS, there is nothing wrong with having people in your life to help you grow. In fact, they are necessary! BUT, those people aren’t meant to just give you all of the answers, their job is to help you learn how to think biblically and how to listen to the Holy Spirit within YOU! Their job isn’t to study the Bible and hear from God for you, their job is to help you hear from God yourself. Ask yourself:

In what ways am I being too dependent on others for my spiritual growth?

How does God want me to start feeding myself spiritually? What are some steps I need to take?

De-Cluttering

office_clutterYears ago I watched a video seminar on time management. Apparently, not much stuck, but there is one thing I have never forgotten. In speaking about dealing with clutter (be it on a desk, a pile of mail, or e-mails) author Brian Tracy used an acronym to help in deciding what to do with it. Remember T.R.A.F.

  • Toss
  • Refer
  • Act
  • File

Of course, if you are a youth worker like me, sooner or later you (or, more likely, one of your Jr. High students who see it posted above your desk) will have the revelation that this acronym might be more easily memorized by remembering F.A.R.T. Either way, may this little nugget help you de-clutter, delegate, and empower you to put your energy into what needs your attention.

Youth: What To Call Them? (Post Your Vote)

“Please stop referring to the kids in our youth groups as ‘students,’ author Jeff White requested in a personal comment in his excellent little book The Skinny on Communication. His premise for this preference is that, “The word student is an academic term that implies a primary role or learning and studying.” He expounds, “Will teens learn stuff? Of course. Is that the main reason they’re a part of your group? I sure hope not.” I think that’s a great insight and one that caught my attention and caused me to reflect.

Interestingly, I have chosen to call youth “students” for the past 15 years intentionally rather than “kids” as White refers to them as, for a similar reason. “Kids” is the term that we use in our church to refer to our ministry to babies through elementary school. Calling teenagers “kids” can also carry connotations we don’t really want to communicate. Kids [doesn’t have to, but] can imply that they are immature and/or potentially incapable of dealing with the things that we want to challenge them with as they are in the process of transitioning from childhood to adulthood. The reason I chose to go with the term “students” many years ago was not because I wanted to communicate that when we come together we will simply be engaging in academic exercises, but rather because it is a term that captures the phase of life the youth I am working with are in. (For example, on a form it will ask for occupation, and there is usually an option for “Student.”)

Youth. Teenagers. Students. Young People. Kids. These are several terms we use to refer to the people we work with in youth ministry. At the end of the day, this might be just an exercise in semantics, but each word can communicate something slightly different. Of course, I have found that I vacillate between terms myself. While most of the time I call them “students”, I certainly find myself at times calling them “my kids,” or “the young people I work with,” or the other terms afore mentioned.

Youth Workers: Have you ever thought about the terms you use to refer to the youth you work with? What term do you use most frequently? Why do you prefer that term? I would love your input. 

Youth: What term do you hear most frequently from your youth workers? What term do you prefer to be called? Why? I would love your input. 

Small Group Kits

Small groups are the most important thing we do in our ministry to students. Today I put together kits for each of our groups to help them maximize engagement and eqip our leaders to be even more effective. You can put all kinds of things into a box like this. Our leaders already have thri curriculum content, so here’s what we put in ours:

Recap and Pics from Claudia’s Miss Teen NY Pageant

Thank you to all of you who supported and were following Claudia’s journey to participate in the Miss Teen New York 2016 pageant. We were very impressed with how she embraced this challenge and how she carried herself with such class. This was her first attempt at anything like this, and although she did not make it into the final 15, she did a tremendous job, and won an award for Outstanding Interview during the closing night competition. This was a great confidence-building experience and she learned so much. We are proud of our girl! She’s a winner in our eyes. On the way home, we were sure to stop and get her her very own crown. (I’m a youth pastor, it’s just what we do. We love to celebrate our kids!)

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Let’s Go Claudia!

Yesterday we deopped Claudia off for her weekend of competing for Miss Teen New York! We are very proud of our daughter who is so beautiful inside and out.  

 

Words are Powerful

This is fascinating. Obviously there are some things that are cause for question/skepticism, but there certainly is a fundamental truth in the beautifying affect of speaking positive words of life and the destructive nature of speaking words of negativity.

Youth Winter Fest 2016 Recap Video

We have just returned from another amazing encounter with God at Youth Winter Fest. We are so thankful to all of the churches, leaders, students, and staff from 15 different local churches who came together as ONE CHURCH this weekend! God is building His kingdom and it is so exciting to be a part of it. Our speaker for the weekend was Brock Morgan, and we were led in worship by Tim Timmons. So great! Make plans now to join us next year January 6-8, 2017 at Tuscarora Inn in Mt. Bethel, PA!

Ready to Sing this Song at #YWF16 Tomorrow Night!